Hi, I’m Alexandra McKay.

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in NJ. I work with adults and couples with concerns related to depression, anxiety, relationship conflict, trauma, life transitions, and OCD. My approach to therapy utilizes EMDR, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, sex therapy, ERP for OCD, and Emotionally Focused Therapy, and is informed by my training as a Neurodiverse Couples Therapist (see below).

I am passionate about building strong therapeutic rapport with my clients, and understand that the foundation of successful therapy lies in creating a safe and nonjudgmental space where clients feel heard, understood and supported.

Treatment Approach

  • Eye Motion Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)

    EMDR is an evidence-based therapy for treating trauma. I am EMDR-trained and pursuing certification by 11/2025.

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) & Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

    CBT and EFT are approaches that research has demonstrated to be highly effective for treating depression, anxiety disorders, relationship problems, & severe mental health concerns, including PTSD. I am a Level 1 Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist.

  • Exposure & Response Prevention (ERP) for OCD

  • Somatic Experiencing (SE)

    SE is a body-focused therapeutic approach that helps individuals release trauma stored in the body. SE is based on the understanding that trauma affects the nervous system and works to restore balance through mindfulness, movement, and somatic awareness. This approach is highly effective for addressing trauma, anxiety, and stress.

  • Neurodiverse Couples Therapy & Sex Therapy-Informed

    I am an AANE-certified Neurodiverse Couples Therapist. For more information about AANE and neurodiversity in couples, click here. The additional training I’ve completed in sex therapy practices, under the guidance of Dr. Tammy Nelson, LPC, informs my work with couples and individuals.

  • Faith based therapy (incorporated only based on client need and preference)

Clinical Specialties

  • Childhood Wounds & Attachment Struggles

  • Boundaries, Codependency & Self-Esteem

  • Sex, Intimacy & Desire Discrepancy

  • Intergenerational Dynamics

  • Neurodiversity in Couples

  • Anxiety, Depression & Stress

  • OCD & Intrusive Thoughts

  • Relationship & Communication Issues

  • Family Conflict, Estrangement & Divorce

  • Trauma, PTSD & Emotional Neglect

Both virtual and in-person sessions are available depending on client need and accessibility.