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Hi, I’m Alexandra McKay.

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in New Jersey, specializing in helping adults and couples navigate challenges such as depression, anxiety, relationship conflict, trauma, life transitions, and OCD.

My therapeutic approach is tailored to each client’s unique needs and draws from evidence-based modalities, including EMDR, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), sex therapy, Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) for OCD, Somatic Experiencing (SE), and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). I also bring specialized training in working with neurodiverse couples.

Outside of sessions, I dedicate myself to ongoing learning and professional growth, focusing only on therapies proven to support meaningful and lasting change. Above all, I believe the most important part of therapy is the relationship itself. I strive to create a safe, supportive, and nonjudgmental space where you feel heard, understood, and empowered to grow.

Treatment Approach

  • Eye Motion Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)

    EMDR is an evidence-based therapy for treating trauma. I am EMDR-trained and pursuing certification by 11/2025.

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) & Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

    CBT and EFT are approaches that research has demonstrated to be highly effective for treating depression, anxiety disorders, relationship problems, & severe mental health concerns, including PTSD. I am a Level 1 Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist.

  • Exposure & Response Prevention (ERP) for OCD

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)

  • Somatic Experiencing (SE)

    SE is a body-focused therapeutic approach that helps individuals release trauma stored in the body. SE is based on the understanding that trauma affects the nervous system and works to restore balance through mindfulness, movement, and somatic awareness. This approach is highly effective for addressing trauma, anxiety, and stress.

  • Neurodiverse Couples Therapy & Sex Therapy-Informed

    I am an AANE-certified Neurodiverse Couples Therapist. For more information about AANE and neurodiversity in couples, click here. The additional training I’ve completed in sex therapy practices, under the guidance of Dr. Tammy Nelson, LPC, informs my work with couples and individuals.

  • Faith based therapy (incorporated only based on client need and preference)

Clinical Specialties

  • Childhood Wounds & Attachment Struggles

  • Boundaries, Codependency & Self-Esteem

  • Sex, Intimacy & Desire Discrepancy

  • Intergenerational Dynamics

  • Neurodiversity in Couples

  • Anxiety, Depression & Stress

  • OCD & Intrusive Thoughts

  • Relationship & Communication Issues

  • Family Conflict, Estrangement & Divorce

  • Trauma, PTSD & Emotional Neglect

Both virtual and in-person sessions are available depending on client need and accessibility.